De Marigny is understood to have told colleagues that when Antonis struck the last-gasp winner, he for some reason had it in his mind that the ''golden goal'' rule applied and the game was over, even though he knew before the match that wasn't the case.
He ran onto the field on impulse and when Carney confronted him he shoved the players arm away at chin level, the pair then getting into a heated exchange at close quarters.
''He didn't slap him as people have been saying,'' one Victory insider said.
Anastasiadis ran on to the pitch in a bid to keep the peace but then became involved in the altercation too.
Victory are hoping that Anastasiadis' punishment will be less and will argue that his intervention was well-intentioned, seeking to act as a peacemaker.
As it is, the pair will no be allowed to act in any official capacity at the grand final. They can enter the stadium but will not be allowed into the dressing room before or after the match, or at half-time, nor will they be allowed near the technical area or to work with coach Kevin Muscat and the players in the warm up.
They can work with the team during the lead up to the game.
If they decide to appeal against any penalty they can go to the Disciplinary and Ethics Committee, but that is a gamble as while it might reduce any sentence it could ultimately decide to give them a heavier penalty.
De Marigny has twice worked for the Jets in the past, as assistant to Richard Money in the club's first season and also as No.2 to Scott Miller, the latter coming in between two stints at Victory.
He has in recent weeks been named in media reports as a possible candidate for the vacant Wellington Phoenix job.
Meanwhile, some Victory supporters have voiced their concerns that the grand final will be played at McDonald Jones Stadium in Newcastle just 24 hours after the Newcastle Knights NRL team will face the Rabbitohs at the same venue.
But with tickets already sold and many Victory fans having already bought airline tickets and booked hotel rooms, there is no chance that the FFA will switch the venue.
Michael Lynch, The Age's expert on soccer, has had extensive experience of high level journalism in the UK and Australia. Michael has covered the Socceroos through Asia, Europe and South America in their past three World Cup campaigns. He has also reported on Grands Prix and top class motor sport from Asia and Europe. He has won several national media awards for both sports and industry journalism.
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